Happy New Year – Growth is uncomfortable

Happy New Year everyone. I do hope this year will be the year it happens for you, please ensure that you do not allow yourself to stop you. Cast those self-doubt, unbelief, and personal issues away, do not allow them to walk on your mind or back. Also, remember to cast every care on the One you believe in, trust me it works.

So, today I was sent an email with an attachment that led me an article written in the Harvard Business Review by Peter Bregman. This article was so true, it spoke about becoming better at who you are or what you want to be, the process of getting there and remaining committed through all of it. He asked two questions: 1. Do you want to become better? 2. Are you willing to feel the discomfort of putting in more effort and trying new things that will feel weird and different and won’t work right away?

My answer is yes and I have been doing this for the last 3-4 months. My new job is out of my comfort zone, my knowledge zone, my tolerance zone, my everything zone!! However as in the article which spoke about making mistakes until you become better I too found myself making mistakes and wondering ‘what am I doing here?’ I realised I was also making strides, but would make more mistakes and started beating down on myself, do you do that too? Instead of commending myself for the good changes I was making I was focusing on the mistakes and then really beating up on these shoulders. I would get home and my face would be like a slapped ass – lol. I now know that I need to accept that I will make mistakes but I should work more at the mistakes and celebrate when I don’t make any.

Why should I celebrate? Because my job is complex, see I work in HR and everyday is different. Yes, there are processes that are the same everyday, however, each case is different, each employee has individual needs etc. Therefore, I should celebrate that as a new employee in this role I get some things right!

Bregman stated that ‘learning anything new is, by nature, uncomfortable. You will need to act in ways that are unfamiliar…..you are guaranteed to feel awkward, you will make mistakes…you will be embarrassed or even feel shame, especially if you are used to succeeding a lot.’ He is so right, after working in customer services for 4 years I could do my job with my eyes closed, however, it wasn’t challenging in the right way, I was demotivated because I would do the job of a manager and end up with a supervisor’s pay and I was tired for the wrong reason, plus I could’ve done with a salary increase!

Now, in this new career enhancing role, I am in an uncomfortable  position but I am working on my self, working on becoming better in my role and supporting my team the best I can, whilst working on the thing that needs upgrading РI figured it out whilst on a week long break from work haha (ironic).

All in all, remember to be yourself whilst working on becoming a better you!

2 Replies to “Happy New Year – Growth is uncomfortable”

  1. Great article Stace.
    Thank you for sharing, I would love to read the article, so I can get some help as well.
    Love the fact that the article helped you realized, you are not alone in this journey. We ALL mistakes, even your Manager, and we are good at hiding them from others, And very quick to point out others mistakes, why? It’s an EGOTISTICAL thing. It makes us feel and look good, without thinking of the other person’s feeling.
    It is important to point out at this stage, Egotistical people do not consider others emotional state,they LACK empathy, are considered emotional reck’ themselves. So consider this also.
    Sometimes, it’s not about you, they are unable to express their own emotions in a rational way, so they come across blunt and angry.
    Here is an opportunity for you to be the better person.
    Like the article said, it is a process of becoming a better you”. I do thus daily, and I hope this help you.
    Compliment Yourself Daily. It don’t have to be about your work only. It could be the clothes you are wearing, the new hairstyle. The simplest way, just say I look good today!! I feel great today!.”Today is my day to SHINE!,no matter what the day brings.
    Don’t be too hard on yourself, your goal is not to be perfect, but to be the best you can be.
    Learn from your mistakes, Change takes time,and you will revel in all victories soon.
    Your God is bigger than all the things you go through. Give it all to him, and he will take care of it.
    Stay blessed.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.